If you’ve read any of my articles or books you know I’m not a fan of rules when it comes to relationships.
I think rules treat the symptoms, not the disease, but that’s a tangent for a different time!
Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach, is a Certified Professional Coach and an expert featured on The Ricki Lake Show and on numerous other radio shows, in print and on national blogs.
Rick also hosted his own radio show, The Coming Out Lounge.
Whether it's a first date, casual dating or dating to mate, gay guys face the same challenges as everyone else.
The only difference is they do it with class, sass and still get a piece of ass when it's done right!
It's about finding the puzzle piece you fit with and the Ernie to your Bert.4.
Now what activity would be so out of the box for you, it might put you in a space to meet new guys, make friends with people who have gay friends or try a new hobby? If you really want a guy who appreciates monogamy, then hanging out with people who have open relationships probably isn't the best place to meet Mr. From sex to finances and family to intellectual awareness, letting your true desires show up doesn't make you weak, weird or wacky. The more you make excuses for why your gay dating life is the toilet, the less chance of it shifting in a positive way.
Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. Either play the gay dating game or get out of the other gay guys' way! The goal is for the single gay community to know you're in circulation.2. Going to the same coffee shop, grocery store and gym leads to the same scenery and the same results. When you hide from your truth, it won't set you free. " Constantly in a tailspin with the same old audio tapes playing in your head? Gay dating is a chore that eventually leads to feeling depressed and lonely ... Even if you feel like a fool, you'll rack up the frequent heartbreak points that will eventually pay for an all-expenses-paid trip to true love. The more you look to others to validate your existence, your value and your self-worth, the deeper the hole gets for you to lay in and have sand kicked in your face.
So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:1. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves? "For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you.
After a breakup, you resolve to not contact your ex for a determined amount of time. When done right, the no contact rule can get you the exact relationship you’ve always wanted (and not always with your ex, sometimes you’ll be surprised where it takes you).
When done wrong, you just end up wasting even more of your precious time pining away for someone who isn’t meant for you.In theory this is easy, but in reality it can feel almost impossible. You can stay stuck in the wrong relationship for months, even years, sitting on the fence, unable to move in one direction or the other.