I was holding a plastic tray full of miniature bottles of alcohol—including SKYY Vodka, Beefeater Gin and Johnnie Walker—as part of my Halloween costume. My bowl of peanuts was still full, but all the bottles were nearly empty.I watched as my then-boyfriend chugged the last one.Before I left my husband, a dear friend from school sent me a quote from Maya Angelou.
Bottom line: The ugly truth is that alcoholism and drinking issues wreck a lot of romantic relationships.In such cases, he uses alcohol to balance his mood, feel happy, and relax.The simple truth is that a glass of wine or two helps you relax; anything more than that is unhealthy coping with issues of which you’re not yet aware. Sure, if someone orders five beers over the course of the night, you’re going to ask yourself, I hope, is he an alcoholic? Shot-taking is something that many young men and women do, but as they mature and grow into adulthood, this behavior becomes far less common.If you’re not a big drinker and don’t want to be with a big drinker, tell him from the start in a nice, gentle way.
Again, watch how he responds and take note of any defensiveness. No one wants to believe their new guy is an alcoholic, so any sense you have that he might have a drinking problem is a cause for concern.And when you are with an alcoholic, you are use to suffering in silence as the martyr, wondering why the alcoholic does what s/he does. This included that he did not go to my grandfather’s funeral, he did not come home all night long, and he brought cocaine into our home.