What’s really stupid about this, if you are the one trying to change another person, is that you are trying to change a person into what you want them to be, yet it wasn’t what you were necessarily attracted to in the first place.
So if you do succeed in getting them to change and then you wonder why the interest or attraction fades, that might have something to do with it. Resentment: A person will often start to make changes in order to please another person.
" When we began to answer, something wonderful happened. Sure, I loved my boyfriend, but all these other people were in love when they got married, too. I realized that none of my past relationships ended due to lack of love — they ended because one of us (OK, me) didn't love our life together.